week 4: body language and touch (Tegan)

I loved this class.

We go over some of this content in Approach Energy so I was aware of the concepts and drills etc, so I knew what to do when i got called up by James to assist him in the demonstrations.

James took us over accidental touch, incidental touch, sexual and seductive touch and so on. We demonstrated how to mirror and match someone’s energy, movements, and body language, and explained how important it is, as you can build trust and friendship quickly and it also aids you in seducing someone

we then went over how to integrate yourself into a group of people talking and how to lock into the situation, this was very interesting to me, as i find that if there is a group of people that i want to talk to, i sometimes have trouble getting myself into the situation and cementing myself into the group, when in reality, im already accepted into the group, and its just me that feels weird, like i dont belong, but thats my inner game stuff, so ill work on that in the next inner game class with Shae.

When going over body language, James taught us a lot about our posture, and our presence. This is something i paid real attention too as my posture is getting really bad, and my back and neck is constantly sore. So now I have some simple techniques the James took us through to help me keep my back and posture straight and upright, which also means that i no longer present myself as a timid shy woman through my posture, but as a confident young woman.

We also worked out our little twitches, such as jiggling your leg, playing with your hair or ear, biting your nails etc, to eliminate them from ourselves, as the present you as a nervous person.

James also took us through eye contact, intent, holding space, and finding your balance point, which are all very, very important when entering a room, club, bar etc.

We then go over escalation, and getting our touch to go from “friendly” to “sexy”, this was pretty fun, learning how to touch someone with desecration so its just between you and that person, and that builds secrecy and as i know from my experience, can be such a turn on.

Then my favourite part, the kissing demonstrations.

Tim took this part of the class, so it was great for me because i got to kiss my boyfriend, which is always fun. So Tim takes us through the ways you can go for the kiss, which types of kisses are appropriate for different situations. And also the most important thing, what to do if your kiss if rejected, how to handle it and be cool, and to then keep the interaction going. Its pretty cool when you reject a kiss, and the guy is man enough to accept it gracefully that your not ready for that yet, and then keep talking to you and not give up, and that the guy is confident enough in making a move too.
There is nothing worse than hanging with a guy and wanting him to make a move and wanting it so badly, and then he just doesnt man up and kiss you.

but really, women should just make the move too, take the pressure off guys a bit, and go for what we want.

Week 2: Inner Game (Tegan)

This was a pretty intense class.

Shae was taking us in through some hypnosis, getting us to confront ourselves, and our inner fears and issues.

I honestly dont know how i can explain to you this class, it was just so intense, and i dealt with some serious conflicts that i have been in denial about for a while.

One of the journeys Shae took us on was to to think of an aspect of your life, the good and the bad of it, holding the good in one hand, and the bad in the other, and then slowing learning to put your hands together and eliminating the bad to leave only good.

This task freaked me out a bit, im not going to go into why as its quite personal,  however it was a beautifully simple way to change the thoughts on the subject and come out feeling clean, and relaxed, without any negative thoughts on the issue.

It was amazing.

I will be going over these little hypno/relaxing drills by myself over the next few weeks, to really deal with my inner conflicts, and my inner game, so i can not just be the best i can be on the outside, but on the inside too.

week one (Katie)

Hello there.
My name is Katie, I work as a female coach for the Approach Energy course, and am doing the Masterclass along with the two other female students, Tegan and Yolan.
Tegan has already given a fairly good overview of the first day in her intro post, so I’ll skip the repetition and write this from a more personalised perspective.
I think the most important thing that I got from Masterclass week one was the goal setting segment, so I’m going to take some time here to focus upon that.
We were asked to write down our goals in the sense of the future- as if we had achieved them already. Time-specific, parameter-specific, descriptive, and the feeling that having achieved said goal gives us.

I wrote the following:

It is November, 2015. My first novel has just been published, and I am 23 years old. It is successful, well thought out and well-written. I am proud of it, and in the process of writing another. I feel accomplished to a degree, but still have more to say.

It is now: November, 2011. I am entirely financially self-sufficient, with money to spare. I am healthier and take care of myself, eat well, exercise, am mentally stable.

It is now: February 2011. I have at least one meaningful intimate relationship with a man, whilst remaining free to approach and establish connections with others. I am candid and honest about this, and have nothing to hide. This feels liberating.

We later did a visualisation exercise with Shae about projecting one of those goals. It took about ten minutes, and the atmosphere of the room afterward was markedly different. Everyone had this strange sense of determination about them. I visualised my first goal, to publish a book, and afterward I was itching to start researching and writing. I actually had trouble concentrating for the rest of the class because I wanted to start writing a synopsis. It’s been almost a week since now, and although I haven’t suddenly become a published author (lol), I’ve noticed a significant increase in my prolificacy- I’ve written about half a short story, and a few poems.

I’ve been using a similar sort of assumptive visualisation this week in work- on the ride up to our door-knocking turf, I visualise myself handing in 7 sales at the end of the day, visualise my bank balance being a couple grand. When I’m about to knock a door, I quickly visualise the customer signing the forms.

My sales this week have been really good, actually. I only worked a couple days this week, and made a significant amount more than I usually do. I don’t attribute this solely to Masterclass- I changed and refined my sales pitch this week, and learned how to upsell much better, but nonetheless, it definitely helped. If you go into something with the frame of guaranteed success, you are far more likely to succeed. This is something I’ve always known, but its become a lot clearer this week. I’m glad I have a job which articulates this concept so clearly, because seeing it reinforced so often in the short term makes me remember to apply it in the long term as well.

One of the ideas covered had to do with sexual archetypes, and imagining yourself in the role of one of those to give yourself some extra seductive confidence. I was reminded of a character which I always mentally refer to during seductive interaction- Audrey Horne from Twin Peaks.
Watch this video for reference.

I love the way she oozes this bizarre sort of sex-appeal. The song in the video is also my ‘go-to’ seductive reference song. It plays in my head when I go to do an approach, or to escalate. ‘Audrey’s Dance’ by Angelo Badaalamenti. Download dat shit, yo.

I’m excited for week two.

In terms of seduction, I’ve had one day 2 lay this week (field report is on my journal on the Melbourne Lair), and I’m also working on a very protracted seduction with someone I’ve been seeing for maybe two or three months now?

I don’t have a great deal of time at the moment, but my wing and I are certainly going to go do some day-game and night-game soon. I saw him on Wednesday, but I was sort of heavily embroiled in a seduction at the time, so I wasn’t the world’s greatest wing-girl. Sorry brotha’.

Preliminary seduction isn’t something i’m overly interested in at the moment, I don’t really have time for more than a few fuck-buddies at the moment, but I suppose a few SNL’s and such wouldn’t hurt. I just find it really difficult to find someone I don’t grow tired of in less than 24 hours. My aim these days is to game for quality.

So yeah. Can’t wait for Monday!

commencing masterclass: a female perspective (Yolan)

Having recently received a place in The Natural Lifestyles final ever Masterclass, I feel incredibly excited about my journey ahead over the 12 week course. I also feel very privileged to be experiencing it as the course has never been offered to females before and I’m really looking forward to learning and discovering more about and improving myself and documenting my progress and thoughts about it here.

Week One, Class One: I am a little nervous as I make my way into the building and wait for class to start because at this point I’m not sure what to expect. I actually sit on my own and quietly draw pictures in my notebook (which we have been asked to bring to write notes in), which is not like me, and not something I would generally do when I’m comfortable. I suppose the anticipation and not knowing everyone is a little overwhelming. Anyway I take a seat at the front of the room and we are introduced to the head coaches James and Shae. I listen attentively with the other students as we are explained by James a little bit about the course content and timetable, what we will cover and when.

We are asked to introduce ourselves and explain the main things we’d like to get out of the course to the class. I am asked to go first and start to panic; I stand up in front of this classroom half full of strangers and am lost for words, literally. I just stand there and say “um” about four or five times while I think about what I want to get out of the class. “…Public speaking?” someone quips. I laugh, but its true. Being confident with public speaking would be pretty cool, but what I’m really hoping for is to be more confident in all areas of my life, be it talking to an attractive guy at the bar, or interviewing for a job, or in a room full of strangers, anything. But I want to keep an open mind too, and try and embrace all aspects of the class and get as much out of it as I can.

We are introduced to our ‘wings’, the partner we will have for the entirety of the class to use to help support and encourage and give feedback to each other. I’m very impressed with my wing ‘B’, he’s very polite and a little bit quiet but he seems really enthusiastic and friendly.

After that Shae talked to us about goal setting, which is really useful to me because setting, committing to and achieving goals is something I have a lot of difficulty with in everyday life.

Shae also taught us about presuppositions. The best way I can describe them is they ideas that put you in a powerful place, and kind of open your mind up, or at least thats what they did for me. I thought they were very interesting and I literally walked out of the class feeling like my mind had been opened to a higher level of perception. I’m really excited for the next class now too; if I can walk out of one class feeling enlightened like that, imagine how I’ll feel after two?

Receiving the key to the secret men’s club. (Tegan)

Its not often, if ever, that a young woman gets the key to the secret men’s club that is seduction and lifestyle community.

Ive been invited along to the Final Masterclass that is being run by The Natural Lifestyles, to see inside the minds of men, and to accept the challenge of avoiding my own inner issues and delving into my own mind.

During this 12 week course, that covers all aspects of life, I will be documenting the course, my progress, and the overall progress of the class, and revealing and discovering some interesting insights into the minds of men.
First, James (one of the head coaches) Starts off with the overview of the course, and then we jump into everyone doing little introductions on who they are, why they are here, what their goals are and what they want out of the course. this scares the crap out of me.

I have no idea… what do I want? where do I want to be?

Ahhhh! All I can think of is finishing my uni course and sleeping, but i guess this means there is no better time to work out who I am and what I want, than now. I will have my bachelor in design arts, and job prospects on the horizon, keeping strong with my good friends and my dream man, and now all I have left to do in this intermediate part of my life is work out who the hell I really am.

Its going to be big….

Ok so Shae (other head coach) has just done another overview of the course, and now we are getting assigned our “Wings” for the duration of the 12 weeks.

A “Wing” is a partner who is going to be with you every step of the way, through the course, pushing you, and calling you out when you make excuses, helping you when you hit a wall, etc. My “Wing” for the next 12 weeks, is, well, I’ll call him “G”. Im pretty happy that I’ve been paired with G, I’ve coached him in a private course in the past, and we have become quite good friends, so this will be less scary, as we already know each other, and happen to be at the start of our friendship, so what better chance to build a really strong friendship than to go through this life changing three month course together.

We have decided, G and I, that seeing as we both have the gift of the gab that we will, under no circumstances, bullshit each other. Honesty is key.

Something that I’ve learnt to really love and appreciate about life, is just how odd the universe is and how things work out, and that whole “6 degrees” blah blah blah stuff. When I was younger, just after my rebelling drunken phase, and just before my “im all serious and adult-like” phase, I’d often find myself at local parties, with the local kids, rocking out to our local bands, in-between rounds of “Goon of fortune” and rapping loudly and obscenely to a myspace cult hit rapper by the name of…. actually… its a secret identity so im just going to call him….. “S”…. anyway, to get to the point, he was a big part of my childhood, and now Im working with him… as my wing…. as my friend…. I love how these weird things keep happening.

Next step: Goals. What has led you to come to this class?

Honestly, I want to finally take the time to work on myself, learn about myself, and find out what makes me who I am. But also getting a rare insight into men, one I wold never otherwise get the chance to see.

What changes are you committed to getting from this course for yourself and others?

Thinking before I speak, and listening. Being confident in all social and business situations.

If you could walk away with one amazing thing from this course what would it be?

True confidence, and not just the type that comes out as a nervous defence mechanism.

Why are you really here? Havent I just answered that?